Therapy for Adult Children of Narcissists in Los Angeles
Live Life on Your Own Terms
Your needs are not selfish.
Your feelings matter.
As an adult, you’re a people-pleaser. You don’t handle criticism well because it comes with the feeling that you’ve done something “wrong” or affirms your belief that you’re “not good enough.”
Maybe when asked a simple question like “where do you want to get lunch?” you freeze with uncertainty or draw a blank. The lack of connection with yourself and your needs spills out into bigger areas of your life. It’s easier for you to take care of others than it is to take care of yourself.
You struggle to show anyone an authentic version of you - or maybe you’re not even sure what that looks like.
If this rings true,
chances are you may be an Adult Child of a Narcissistic Parent.
Regardless of how you were raised, therapy can help you to gain a sense of self-esteem and self-worth. From there, you can start to set clear boundaries and experience healthier relationships.
Did the love of your parent come with conditions?
It can be challenging to consider that how you grew up was not quite normal. While narcissistic and emotionally immature parents can showcase different behaviors, here are some traits that you might recognize:
Unpredictability: You were never sure how your parent was going to respond from moment to moment, situation to situation.
Overpowering: Their emotions caused you and other family members to walk on egg shells around them, so as not to get them upset. Things always had to go their way.
Lack of Empathy: This parent can’t understand things from anyone else’s perspective. You might clearly tell them how you’re feeling, and they’ll brush you off or say “that’s not true.”
Lack of Boundaries: This parent may have violated your boundaries. Maybe your need for privacy wasn’t respected, or this parent asks inappropriate questions.
Self-Centeredness: This parent thinks they are better than anyone else, and can’t handle any kind of criticism. They’re constantly looking for validation and obsess over outward appearances.
“ The hurtful and stinging words of a narcissistic parent can linger in the mind of an adult child long after the adult has left home.”
– Shannon Thomas
How do I know if I was raised by a narcissist?
Are you ready to make a change?
Therapy for Adult Children of Narcissists and Emotionally Immature Parents in Los Angeles
or online in California
Fill out the form or call (213) 427-8658 to set up your FREE 15-minute phone consultation.
I utilize a direct, yet compassionate approach where you can share a range of emotions without judgement.
In our sessions, we’ll work with somatic modalities that will help you to break repetitive patterns and start to tune in to your core self.
Frameworks like EMDR and Brainspotting help you to make connections between your past and your current behaviors and struggles.
Get the help you need to tune into your true needs and desires, and nurture meaningful relationships.
As a therapist, it's my role to help provide a safe environment. Together, we can explore what healthy separation looks like for you and your parent.
This opens up a deeper dialogue into what you want in your life and other relationships.
You can experience secure attachment, and reclaim your life as your own.